With all the attention paid to the urban tribe, however, many twentysomethings have limited themselves to huddling together with like-minded peers. Some are in almost constant contact with the same few people. But while the urban tribe helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly knowāthose who never make it into our tribeāwho will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better.
Maybe someday soon we can try another park bench. I donāt know. I canāt know.āMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
We expect others to be honest and open with their intentions, especially romantically, but how many people are we keeping on the back burner?āBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
We donāt allow others to be messy, but we expect them to lend a comforting shoulder when weāre in pieces.āBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
Do you assume other people are doing you a favor by giving you love and spending time with you? Do you ever think about the fact that they likely are just as hungry for love?āBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
When you see somebody else displaying one of these traits, itās infuriating, not because you inherently dislike it, but because you have to fight your desire to fully integrate it into your whole consciousness. ā¦ The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.āBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
We canāt choose whose wreckage can [change the parts of ourselves and our worlds we canāt]. We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too.āBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
I don't want to be validated. I want to be loved.āKai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love. Highlighted
You just learn to accept that people have their own fucked-up ways of coping with shit. And you decide whether youāre willing to put up with it or not.āHazel Hayes, Out of Love. Highlighted
āWeāre always looking for that missing piece in ourselves,ā said Jungian analyst Jacqueline Wright. āThat ideal lover or person that weāre looking for holds a quality that we donāt recognize or express in ourselves.āāLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted