âWalls close you off from the world and prevent intimacy, whereas boundaries allow for healthier relationships and enable people to feel vulnerable while also staying safe.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
âI am actually grateful when someone tells me directly that I have crossed their boundaries rather than sitting in resentment and releasing it in passive-aggressive comments.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
âThe best thing is, the more you get used to saying no, the less you have to cancel.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
âWhat I have since learned about boundaries is while you never have to give a reason to say no, you most definitely do have to give a reason if you are canceling.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
â"Selflessness" is not about being "good", it's about being liked.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
âWith all the attention paid to the urban tribe, however, many twentysomethings have limited themselves to huddling together with like-minded peers. Some are in almost constant contact with the same few people. But while the urban tribe helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly knowâthose who never make it into our tribeâwho will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better.â
âMaybe someday soon we can try another park bench. I donât know. I canât know.ââMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
âWe expect others to be honest and open with their intentions, especially romantically, but how many people are we keeping on the back burner?ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âWe donât allow others to be messy, but we expect them to lend a comforting shoulder when weâre in pieces.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âDo you assume other people are doing you a favor by giving you love and spending time with you? Do you ever think about the fact that they likely are just as hungry for love?ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âWhen you see somebody else displaying one of these traits, itâs infuriating, not because you inherently dislike it, but because you have to fight your desire to fully integrate it into your whole consciousness. ⌠The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âWe canât choose whose wreckage can [change the parts of ourselves and our worlds we canât]. We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âI don't want to be validated. I want to be loved.ââKai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love. Highlighted
âYou just learn to accept that people have their own fucked-up ways of coping with shit. And you decide whether youâre willing to put up with it or not.ââHazel Hayes, Out of Love. Highlighted
ââWeâre always looking for that missing piece in ourselves,â said Jungian analyst Jacqueline Wright. âThat ideal lover or person that weâre looking for holds a quality that we donât recognize or express in ourselves.âââLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted