From The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now
By Meg JayWith all the attention paid to the urban tribe, however, many twentysomethings have limited themselves to huddling together with like-minded peers. Some are in almost constant contact with the same few people. But while the urban tribe helps us survive, it does not help us thrive. The urban tribe may bring us soup when we are sick, but it is the people we hardly knowâthose who never make it into our tribeâwho will swiftly and dramatically change our lives for the better.![]()
âSo, youâre the Outward Bound girl!â For years to come, even on residency interviews, I spent most of the time answering questions about what happened when kids ran away in the wilderness or whether it was safe to swim in a river with alligators ... Identities and careers are made not out of college majors and GPAs but out of a couple of door-opening pieces of identity capital.âMeg Jay, The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now. Highlighted![]()
Twentysomethings who take the time to explore and also have the nerve to make commitments along the way construct stronger identities. They have higher self-esteem and are more persevering and realistic. This path to identity is associated with a host of positive outcomes, including a clearer sense of self, greater life satisfaction, better stress management, stronger reasoning, and resistance to conformityâall the things Helen wanted.![]()
I told her I wasnât so sure, and that an extended period of navel-gazing is usually counterproductive for twentysomethings.âMeg Jay, The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now. Highlighted![]()
We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for laterâbut not making choices is a choice all the same.âMeg Jay, The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now. Highlighted![]()
...While most therapists would agree with Socrates that âthe unexamined life is not worth living,â a lesser-known quote by American psychologist Sheldon Kopp might be more important here: âThe unlived life is not worth examining.ââMeg Jay, The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter--And How to Make the Most of Them Now. Highlighted![]()
Tired of lying in the sunshine, staying home to watch the rain You are young and life is long, and there is time to kill today And then one day you find, ten years has got behind you No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun. âDavid Gilmour, Nick Mason, Roger Waters, and Richard Wright of Pink Floyd, âTimeâ![]()