Thereâs no space for leisure in life. Youâre either going up or down, end of story. And at a certain point in your life, you have to decide what you want to do with your time.âSophie Divry, The library of unrequited love. Highlighted
In the 21st-century, careers and lives donât roll off an assembly line. We have to put the pieces together ourselves.
When we make choices, we open ourselves up to hard work and failure and heartbreak, so sometimes it feels easier to not to know, not to choose, and not to do. But it isnât.
âHow are you free? You have free time during the day when most everyone you know is working. Youâre living on the edge of poverty. You canât do anything with that time.â
Twentysomethings who take the time to explore and also have the nerve to make commitments along the way construct stronger identities. They have higher self-esteem and are more persevering and realistic. This path to identity is associated with a host of positive outcomes, including a clearer sense of self, greater life satisfaction, better stress management, stronger reasoning, and resistance to conformityâall the things Helen wanted.
Every man takes the limits of his own field of vision for the limits of the world.âMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
The lesson of history is that ignorance and superstition are things that can rise up, inside almost anyone, at any moment. And what starts as a doubt in a mind can swiftly become an act in the world.âMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
It is a popular modern idea. That the inner us is something different to the outer us. That there is an authentic realer and better and richer version of ourselves which we can only tap into by buying a solution. This idea that we are separate from our nature, as separate as a bottle of Dior perform is from the plants of a forest.âMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
But this is how I remember these things, and all we can ever be is faithful to our memories of reality, rather than the reality itself, which is something closely related but never precisely the same thing.âMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
My mother was, in the tradition of parents, quite a complicated and contradictory human being. ... I never knew how many of her oddities had sprung from grief and how many from her own inherent nature.âMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted
You are psychologically incapable of being able to predict what will make you happy. Your brain can only perceive what it's known, so when you choose what you want for the future, you're actually just recreating a solution or ideal of the past.âBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
The synopses we spend so much time writing are for characters we no longer are. ⊠You cannot always make sense of your coexisting truths.âBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
When you see somebody else displaying one of these traits, itâs infuriating, not because you inherently dislike it, but because you have to fight your desire to fully integrate it into your whole consciousness. ⊠The things you hate about others are the things you cannot see in yourself.âBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
The root of the work of being human is learning how to think.âBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âExpectations is the place you must always go to before you get to where youâre going.âNorton Juster, The Phantom Tollbooth. Highlighted
âWeâre always looking for that missing piece in ourselves,â said Jungian analyst Jacqueline Wright. âThat ideal lover or person that weâre looking for holds a quality that we donât recognize or express in ourselves.ââLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted
But your future self shouldnât be bound to what your past self predicted. So never make plans.âDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted
Turn your experiences into stories. A story is the remains of an experience. Make your stories entertaining, so people like to hear them.âDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted
You use your past to make your future.âDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted
If you go through life without changing anything, what have you done?âDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted
Changing the world includes changing yourself. Change your beliefs, preferences, acquaintances, hobbies, location, and lifestyle.âDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted