Highlights tagged "boundaries"
Highlights tagged "boundaries"
You are allowed to change your mind and you are allowed to change your boundaries.
—Unknown Author, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
It is only when you don't communicate boundaries, that grudges are used out of the resentment that needs to be relieved.
—Unknown Author, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted
Walls close you off from the world and prevent intimacy, whereas boundaries allow for healthier relationships and enable people to feel vulnerable while also staying safe.
I am actually grateful when someone tells me directly that I have crossed their boundaries rather than sitting in resentment and releasing it in passive-aggressive comments.
Another association with the word "selfish" is that a selfish person thinks the whole world revolves around them - but actually, that's just an insecure person. An insecure person assumes your silence is because you are annoyed at them, or interrupts a conversation to only talk about themselves.
The best thing is, the more you get used to saying no, the less you have to cancel.
What I have since learned about boundaries is while you never have to give a reason to say no, you most definitely do have to give a reason if you are canceling.
I'm going to get my needs met and I'm not going to expect others do it for me.