âWalls close you off from the world and prevent intimacy, whereas boundaries allow for healthier relationships and enable people to feel vulnerable while also staying safe.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted![]()
â"Selflessness" is not about being "good", it's about being liked.ââMichelle Elman, The Joy of Being Selfish. Highlighted![]()
âThere comes a time when the only way to start living is to tell the truth. To be who you really are, even if it is dangerous.ââMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted![]()
âBut recently, now, I was starting to feel that you couldnât do mathematics with emotions. In protecting yourself from hurt you could create a new, subtler type of pain.ââMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted![]()
â... A peck on the lips was not just a peck. âWhat was that for?â I asked. I could just about see her smile in the moonlight. It wasnât a flirtatious smile. It was a plain, matter-of-fact one. âFor you to have something else to occupy your mind.â âI am not sure I have ever met someone like you,â I said.ââMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted![]()
âI looked at her for too long, and with too much intensity in my eyes. The way people never look at people any more. I wanted her in every sense. To want is to lack. That is what it means.ââMatt Haig, How to Stop Time. Highlighted![]()
âWe expect others to be honest and open with their intentions, especially romantically, but how many people are we keeping on the back burner?ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted![]()
âWhen was the last time you leapt out of your comfort zone to tell someone you care about them? When was the last time you definitively asked someone on a date?ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted![]()
âDo you assume other people are doing you a favor by giving you love and spending time with you? Do you ever think about the fact that they likely are just as hungry for love?ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted![]()
âFake kindness isnât worth it. It makes the world worse.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted![]()
âI lean into this stranger, seeking primitive comfortâ heat, touch, breathâas we slip into the ancient vulnerability of sleep.ââEllen Bass, Mules of love. Highlighted![]()
âSometimes the point is to be sad, August. Sometimes you just have to feel it because it deserves to be felt.ââCasey McQuiston, One Last Stop. Highlighted![]()
âI could feel his breath, his heart, which was beating too hard and too fast for him to be sleeping.ââHazel Hayes, Better by Far. Highlighted![]()
âI have the solipsistic sense that my own inner world, and not Tarkovskyâs, is being projected up there for everyone to see.ââHazel Hayes, Better by Far. Highlighted![]()
âWhen talking with people, ask deep open-ended questions â like âWhatâs your biggest regret?â â that will lead to unexpected stories.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âWhen youâre really learning, youâll feel stupid and vulnerable â like a hermit crab between shells.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âPractice being uncomfortable, even in small ways. Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Skip eating for a day, or sugar for a month. Go light-weight camping for a week. Befriend discomfort so that youâll never fear it.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âNo matter how honest you are, thereâs always more honest.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âInvite your dream date to dinner. While everyone else is nervously preparing, you jump right in, unafraid to fail.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âIf you have feelings for someone, and you donât let that person know, youâre lying with your silence. Be direct. It saves so much trouble and regret.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âWhen youâve finished a work, wait a while before you release it to the world. By then, youâre on to something new. The public comments wonât affect you, since they will be about your past work.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted![]()
âAnybody can look at you. Itâs quite rare to find someone who sees the same world you see.ââJohn Green, Turtles All the Way Down. Highlighted![]()
âThe key to well-being is shared humanity, even though we are pushing further and further toward separation.ââCeleste Headlee, Do Nothing. Highlighted![]()