âIâd better put my earrings on, you never know.ââSophie Divry, The Library of Unrequited Love. Highlighted
âUnsatisfied desire allows us to imagine we have found the one who will make us whole, because we havenât yet tested the fit. The not yet relationship becomes strangely comfortable, at least compared to the risk of finding out your belovedâs half-self wonât conform to your own.ââLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted
âWe canât choose whose wreckage can [change the parts of ourselves and our worlds we canât]. We all start as strangers, but we forget that we rarely choose who ends up a stranger, too.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
âWe find people irrationally compelling. We find souls made of the same stuff ours are.ââBrianna Wiest, 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think. Highlighted
ââThe seeker has a confirmation bias, looking for positive signs and discounting the negative ones,â Baumeister said. âIf thereâs ambivalence, itâs going to prolong the hope, because there are enough positives to seize on and overinterpret. The negatives you can brush aside.âââLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted
âWhen weâre caught up in unsatisfied desire, we can write the story of our love ... This is fundamentally a creative act, often full of pleasure at first ... yet being together means facing reality, which will probably fall short of the self-centered fantasy.ââLisa A. Phillips, Unrequited. Highlighted
âI used to think the only way a man could hurt you was by lashing out, but it turns out the absence of action can cause just as much pain.ââHazel Hayes, Out of Love. Highlighted
âBut, you know, that feeling? When you wake up in the morning and you have somebody to think about? Somewhere for hope to go? Even when itâs bad, itâs good.ââCasey McQuiston, One Last Stop. Highlighted
âhad I not been struck by the upside-down image of my frilly ankle socks, once white, now turning bright red. Like a cartoon animal who doesnât fall until they notice that the ground is gone, the sight of my own blood made me suddenly aware of the searing pain in my heels. I tore off my shiny black shoes and peeled the blood-soaked socks from my feet before righting myself and continuing my search barefoot.ââHazel Hayes, Better by Far. Highlighted
âAnd look, I know how this goes. I know that by the time you get married Iâll have healed enough that I can smile for you too. But this foresight barely makes a dent in the agony of imagining it now. Somehow, each fresh loss feels different, like a maze with shifting walls; I know thereâs a way out, but Iâm fucked if I can find it.ââHazel Hayes, Better by Far. Highlighted
âIf you have feelings for someone, and you donât let that person know, youâre lying with your silence. Be direct. It saves so much trouble and regret.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted
âProjecting perfection onto someone is not love. You say âI love youâ but really mean âI love thisâ.ââDerek Sivers, How to Live. Highlighted