I don't want to be validated. I want to be loved.—Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love. Highlighted
the current rise of the alt-right and neo-nationalism in American and, to some extent, global politics was largely inspired by the political polarization of the renewed culture wars between increasingly disenfranchised right-wing Americans and the alienating politics of the American progressive left.—Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love. Highlighted
The cultural atmosphere is … more conducive to anxiety-driven attempts to prove one’s goodness through faith in the dogma than it is to the creation of authentic relationships in which we are allowed to be imperfect (which is to say, human) or the development of meaningful social change.—Kai Cheng Thom, I Hope We Choose Love. Highlighted
I realised that I wasn't failing at finishing. Starting things was part of my process. It was a way of whittling ideas down, giving each one a little air, a little water, seeing which would burrow furiously down into the earth and stop me from sleeping, and wilt in daylight.—Leena Norms, Half-Arse Human. Highlighted
Attachment principles teach us that most people are only as needy as their unmet needs. When their emotional needs are met, … they usually turn their attention outward. This is … the dependency paradox.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
This is an important lesson for someone with an anxious attachment style: If you just wait a little longer before reacting and jumping to conclusions, you will have an uncanny ability to decipher the world around you and use it to your advantage.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
…Studies have found that faced with a stressful life event, such as divorce, the birth of a severely disabled child, or military trauma, avoidants’ defenses are quick to break down and they then appear and behave just like people with an anxious attachment style.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
… Studies show that once we become attached to someone, the two of us form one physiological unit. Our partner regulates our blood pressure, our heart rate, our breathing, and the levels of hormones in our blood. … The emphasis on differentiation that is held by most of today’s popular psychology … does not hold water from a biological perspective.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
If you want to take the road to independence and happiness, first find the right person to depend on and travel down it with them.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
Getting attached means that our brain becomes wired to seek the support of our partner by ensuring the partner’s psychological and physical proximity. If our partner fails to reassure us, we are programmed to continue our attempts to achieve closeness until the partner does.—Amir Levine, Attached. Highlighted
I have to do this for my kids. I mean—they’re not my kids. But they’re my kids.—Andy Weir, Project Hail Mary. Highlighted
As hundreds of astronauts have done before, I place my faith and my life in the hands of the engineers who designed the system.—Andy Weir, Project Hail Mary. Highlighted
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